Personally, I find social media hilarious. I participate only on Facebook and Twitter, but I do admire the forms. I think the quick movement on Twitter is great for people with fast wit, and the more relaxed, familial style at Facebook leads to some people making statements they wouldn't otherwise consider because they think they're safe among friends.
They're not, but that's the fun of it.
As a "famous" author, I confess I do hold back a little on what I post on social media. There are opinions I hold that some of my readership might not find agreeable, and some that they hold I'm not crazy about, either. I know how to block and be blocked. I try not to be blocked, but I will block with great alacrity.
Know this, though: I am rarely shocked by anything that happens in "real" life, and often shocked by some things I see on social media.
Not offended, mind you--I'm usually just offended by misuse of the English language--but shocked. It stuns me that people think there's nothing the least bit odd about things they choose to share with a few hundred close personal friends.
I've noticed a trend among some Facebook "friends," (and I put the word "friends" in quotation marks because particularly in my secret identity, the vast majority of my Facebook pals are people I've never met nor spoken to) that makes me shake my head in wonder on a regular basis.
They're pretty much all women, and they will regularly announce that they've had a rough day and at reaching the end of it, need to do something "fun" to "relax."
They post beefcake shots of very scanity clad men.
Now let me reiterate--I'm not offended. Whatever floats your boat is your own business, and I'm all for you enjoying yourself. But when you're communicating with a fairly large group of people and you're posting your fantasies in living color, it's just possible you're not thinking this through all the way. Still, that's your business. Go in good health, my people would say.
What gets me is that if I were to post similar photographs of very-close-to-nude women on my page, I would be considered a hideous sexist and in some minds, a pornographer. This would be especially true if I did so and attributed the posting to my "wanting to relax after a hard day." (Just to clarify: I have no desire nor intention to post such pictures. This is a hypothetical to raise a point.)
There is a really interesting view of sexism in the U.S.: It can only be practiced by men. Do I deny that many men do in fact hold sexist views? Not by any means. I only object when it's assumed I share them. But how come when women indulge in the same kind of activity it's "just in good fun"?
Fair's fair, boys and girls. If you'd find it offensive for a man do degrade a woman to the point of objectifying her and reducing her to a sexualized vessel, it's just as wrong for women to do that to men. Granted, men are far behind in the being-objectified sweepstakes, but let's try to notice such behavior whenever (and whomever) it offends.
There was an article on the front page of yesterday's New York Times that detailed the trials and tribulations of women who work on Wall Street (and make buckets of money) and the husbands/boyfriends/signficant others they leave behind to watch the children. These "stay-at-home dads"--a term I've often found hilarious; do most dads stay at the YMCA?--are portrayed as both amazing (wow--men can be parents too!) and innovative (fathers making less money than mothers? Scandal!). My first thought, of course, was, "Oh, not again!"
I was doing that 24 years ago. I don't recall being on the front page of the paper of record.
Sexist? Sure. But against whom?